My kinda life blog- writing about how you can create more self-compassion in your life and some small actions you can take to increase your wellbeing. My kinda life is a new project where I will share my daily or weekly, life insights with you.
The name and inspiration to start this came from my friend Nathanael Wolfe, all the way in Oakland, California, gratitude to you for directing me into purposeful action.
“Self-compassion is extending compassion to one’s self in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering. Dr. Kristin Neff has defined self-compassion as being composed of three main components – self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.” My kinda life will bring these academic concepts alive and show you ways to apply them in your life.
I have been spending a lot of time pondering, wondering what is my purpose, what is the meaning of life, what is my passion, tough questions, not easy to answer. This time I have created with space to be and decide my direction in life brings me joy that I have choices to work or not to work. The work and life I lead connects to what I value. For the last seven years I have been very interested in compassion and how to increase my own compassion (Compassion means “to suffer together.”) and enable others to become more compassionate. There is a lot of research being collected showing the benefits to your wellbeing when you take a compassionate approach to life. I was never really a big fan of too much empathy, you need empathy to understand others, too much and I found it draining, I also found this is the case for other people, intuitively i knew this from my observations of people that are too empathetic. The good news is that you cannot have enough compassion and the more you have the happier you can be right now.
Why not spend a little time ‘working out’ with a little self-compassion a day, I love Chris Germer and his quote “A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.”
Let’s get started, the first blog-
‘Why can’t we be more like dogs?’- Lessons of compassion and mindfulness from dogs…
Yesterday sitting in a park close to where I live taking in the last rays of summer, although we are in autumn now. Watching the world around me and inside me. Seeing the sky and colours, with white lines like a painting. Watching people walking and running along the paths. Seeing all types of people. In the main park where the grass is the dogs are having the most fun, running to smell each other, wagging their tails. Bouncing here there and everywhere. Do they know something we do not know? The excitement to be there in that moment and see and smell each other. Dog’s are having more fun than human beings in some of the most beautiful parts of nature. Why can we not be a little more dog and less human?
Ok a crazy thought you might think and especially from me someone who is afraid of dogs because my mum was afraid. I now understand more about dogs from the many people that love dogs, so I can watch them and understand what they are doing, when they are bouncing after a shit and wagging their tale when they are happy. The dog’s I was watching were all different in their appearance, their shape, size and colour, yet they came together in union and togetherness.
Because they are authentic and do what they feel, they are easier to read than people who spend a lot of time pretending to be someone else and hence not very happy.
Lessons from dog’s you can test out today-
- Smile to a stranger, say hello, greet them as you would your best friend,
- Be present and pay attention for 1 minute to what somebody else is saying,
- Silently wish someone else well, say may they be well, may they be happy,
- What 1 activity can you do today with a little playfulness and joy just to be there in that moment?
Let me know how it goes…
With kindness to you today,