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Positive Action in the NHS – The LEAP Programme for NHS pay bands 2-7

This week I was invited to speak at a seminar on “Embedding Equality, Diversity and Inclusion (EDI) in the Workplace” ESRC held at the University of Sheffield on 10 June 2015.

The seminar, focused on the role of EDI practices, the speakers included – Dr Eden King (George Mason University), Professor Derek Avery (Temple University), Harpal Dhatt (Glow at Work ) and Yvonne Coghill (NHS Leadership Academy).


(Above is a group selfie at the end of the seminar with diversity researchers; Yves Guillaume, Derek Avery, Eden King and Jeremy Dawson)

This week I bring to you some of the LEAP (Leadership Empowerment through Achieving your Potential) programme story, which was initially designed for Black and Ethnic Minority (BME) employees and now is also available to other groups in the National Health Service (NHS).

“My vision is to see in my lifetime NHS organisations with a “leadership (that) reflect the population it serves” (Alastair Mclellan). Where passion, talents, skills, expertise, wisdom, humility, compassion are valued and taken seriously, where all people matter and not just the select or favourite few.” (Harpal Dhatt)

From 1998 onwards I have worked in the NHS in different departments; Procurement, Patient Affairs, CEO’s office, Learning & Development, Human Resources, Organisation Development. I have experienced a range of NHS settings; from traditional hospitals, primary care trusts, community providers, to the more unusual prison healthcare. Working with CEO’s, senior managers, middle managers and frontline employees. During that time I observed that the senior leadership were often gained by those who had been in the organisation the longest and those who did  not rock the boat. This resulted in a mismatch between the strengths and skills required for the role and the person in the role. Competence and hard-work were not necessarily rewarded, leading to a culture of maintaining the status quo.

In my role as a Learning & Development co-ordinator I was tasked with collecting data on ethnicity of patients and staff. While undertaking this exercise, I noticed a discrepancy between pay band and race. At band 5, BME employees were over represented and in band 7 and upwards, they were under-represented. Although nearly 20% of the 1.4 million people who work in the NHS are from Black and ethnic minority (BME) backgrounds. At a NHS conference in 2008 it was stated that one of the reasons raised for this was institutional racism in the NHS. I was initially shocked by this, as I thought this was just in the police force following the Macpherson report. It seems, even today, that even though the NHS has talked about having a diverse work force reflecting its population not a lot has changed, why is it that progress is slow?

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” (Albert Einstein)

Research on unconscious bias shows that the first thing we notice when we meet another person is their race. We all have biases, we are all imperfect and we can hide behind them instead of speaking honestly about them. We might pretend there are no differences and stay stuck in the same place of denial. This work has led to a movement of encouraging more open discussions, acknowledging we all have biases and this is ok, if we are aware of them we can find ways to manage them. In my opinion, we are now in a place of unconscious and conscious biases. What happens  when we are conscious of them but ok with them and choose not to do anything about it, ignore it, continuing with business as usual?  We need to rethink the systems and the ways things happen, creating systems that reduce bias.  Also being open about how we are going to manage our bias.

The  NHS is an expert in collecting data, facts, producing schemes, framework and using legislation on race. This approach is logical, in the head, but is  not really working or changing things. We need to connect with our hearts and really feel the human connection and compassion that we all have naturally inside us. This is not just something one race has more of than another. Although with pain and suffering we are more likely to explore our compassionate side, and maybe this has been developed more in some races that have experienced more suffering?

The work of Professor Michael West, Jeremy Dawson and colleagues shows the “link between the treatment of BME staff and the quality of patient care, and the importance of boards representing the diverse communities they serve.” Again we know the importance of what the data that has been collected shows us. Yet in my opinion we keep collecting more and more data, telling us the same information. Why are we not exploring innovative ways to make a difference, so that in another 10 years we can say there has been  change.

During my work I noticed that BME leadership development was positioned to people in positions from band 7 and upwards. This surprised me when the data was showing that most BME’s are over-represented at band 5. There was a contradiction in what was available in terms of development for the majority of BME staff to progress. I am not saying that all BME staff need to go on a leadership programme.  Sometimes the BME staff are ready and even over qualified for the role and fail to be noticed and promoted, here the systems and culture need to be explored and changed.   There are also a group of  BME people who have had some bad experiences and not been given good feedback or been stretched to develop, their confidence has been knocked back. In some cases maybe they have come from a culture of lower self-promotion and have been told that education and hard work are the answer.  This is one reason why BME’s are sometimes over qualified.  They think the formal way is the way to success and do not understand the informal and political astuteness needed to be successful.

As a consequence of my experience and the data I decided to look for ways to meet this unmet need in the NHS. I decided to consider how to represent the needs of the lower banded NHS employees. This includes all races, although BME’s are over-represented here. I did not see anyone championing this group of employees and it is important in terms of long-term succession planning and the future of the NHS that junior staff are supported to develop and grow from within.

This led me to create a leadership empowerment programme called LEAP in 2008 . This  programme is a 6 day in-house programme delivered over 2 months, open to employees on bands 2-7, the selection criteria is focused on motivation and potential to want to achieve more and progress in your  career. The intention of the programme is to empower and motivate people to be in charge of their own futures. leap .001

These programmes have been run in the following NHS organisations; Hammersmith & Fulham PCT twice, Central London Community Healthcare 6 times and Imperial College Healthcare twice.  In some cases during the selection  process, I have come across a few band 3’s who have scored the highest in the process and delivered some of the best presentations at the end of the programme. Nurturing  this talent to grow and develop helps  to demonstrate that staff are seen as human beings that are valued. The LEAP programme has been delivered 10 times and enabled many BME employees to progress to higher positions. Stories include; moving from band 3 to 6 after 3 months of completing the programme. Some participants have progressed to a higher band position after being on the same band for 10 years. The programme creates a movement where people take responsibility for their career and learn skills to empower themselves and others for greater things.

Glow at Work working with Dr Madeleine Wyatt at the University of Kent Business School have developed a 360 questionnaire to measure the effectiveness and outcomes of the programme. Evidence from this process shows that the programme enhances leadership styles, interpersonal skills, networking ability and proactive behaviour amongst participants.  The programme has a proven track record of delivering high quality outcomes for lower banded NHS employees.

I would welcome the opportunity to be able to hear your thoughts on what I have shared with you so I can realise my dream of spreading this program through the NHS, empowering staff to take charge of their destiny. I wish to bring the evidence base of psychology and practical things that work available to all, to take action to improve themselves and all the people around them.  If you can help me achieve my vision please get in touch and share your ideas with me.  leap2.001

To close I want to share what can happen when you decide to make a change and take on a leadership position.  When you raise your head above the parapet, people will not always like you, they will say no, be difficult and not very nice, it takes courage and determination to keep going.  Luckily persistence is one of my strengths that served me well here.  Also finding your tribe, people that understand what you are doing and can help you.  Even if it is only 1 or 2 people in an organisation that can give you hope to create and do something.  I found this in Grace Vanterpool, Consultant Nurse in Diabetes and previously Nurse of the Year, MBE and Yohannes Fassil, Director at Health Rights Ltd.

“Nothing we do, we do alone, there is always someone else involved from the day we are born.” This is a good way of keeping us all grounded and humble.

A link for you to watch LEAP participant video’s  to see what they think of the programme.

Happy weekend to you and thank you for reading 😉



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Increase your wellbeing by turning towards your suffering with kindness

Mindful Self-Compassion 5 day Intensive

During my trip to the US from Feb-March 2014 where I travelled from Seattle to San Diego.  I got to meet Steve Hickman with Shamash in San Diego at the Centre for Mindfulness there.  Steve had written the forward to Shamash’s book ‘Mindfulness for Dummies’.  During their catch up they came up with the idea to run a Mindful Self-Compassion workshop in London.  16 months later it happened.  25 people came together (from England, Israel, California, Philippines, Ireland, South Africa and Dubai)  for the 5 day intensive in Chigwell, Essex with teachers Steve Hickman and Michelle Becker from San Diego.  Also with Vanessa Hope assistant teacher from Bangor.  I was asked to help with the organisation and managing of the course this week at the Domus Mariae, an annexe of Chigwell Convent, in Essex. IMG_1551

I am grateful for the opportunity to spend time away from my daily routine practicing self-compassion and having some time out to just be.  When we slow down, we can catch up with ourselves and in the long run achieve so much more.  IMG_1533

Kristen Neff and Chris Germer have been researching self-compassion for the last 10 years and co-developed the Mindful Self-Compassion programme.  Kristen Neff defines self-compassion as:  “When we suffer, caring for ourselves as we would care for someone we truly love.  Self-compassion includes self-kindness, a sense of common humanity and, mindfulness.” (2003) images

The research on self-compassion shows:

  • Reductions in: anxiety, depression, stress, rumination, perfectionism, body shame, fear of failure.
  • Increases in: life satisfaction, happiness, self-confidence, optimism, curiosity, creativity, gratitude.

The Mindful Self-Compassion Programme (MSC) is an 8 week workshop that I am completing as a 5 day intensive.  It is designed to explicitly teach skills of self-compassion.  It uses meditation, informal practice, group discussion and homework exercises.

Randomised clinical trial of MSC with intervention group vs wait-list control group showed:

  • Experimental group had significantly more change in self-compassion, mindfulness, compassion for others, depression, anxiety, stress, avoidance, life satisfaction.
  • Changes in self-compassion predict improved outcomes.
  • All well-being gains maintained over time.
  • Degree of formal and informal self-compassion practice both related to gains in self-compassion.

The key points of MSC are:

  • Self-compassion gives us the safety needed to turn toward and accept painful feelings so they can heal.
  • We give ourselves compassion not to feel better but because we feel pain.

Things for you to explore:

An invitation for you to find out your self-compassion score here

Try out a guided meditation with Kristen and or Chris Germer.

Watch Kristen Neff’s Ted Talk – 


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Altruism – the wish that other people may be happy – Matthieu Ricard

This week I went to the Action for Happiness talk with Matthieu Ricard, Buddhist Monk, Photographer and Author.  He is on his book tour talking about his new book  Altruism: The Power of Compassion to Change Yourself and the World.  I was very excited to have the opportunity to see him in London and I even got a photo with him at the end :))  Most people bought the book and had it signed, I decided at the end I wanted a photo, I like to be different!


I waited alone in the queue of 800 plus people waiting to go in to see Matthieu Ricard.  I thought I might see a few people I know (most of the people I did know where inside volunteering, Shamash Alidina, Manuel Kraus, Jo Marshall).  I waited and what struck me, me included was that nobody was talking to each other.  I thought people at an event on happiness and altruism might be a bit more friendly and talkative.  I was wrong most people looked tired and serious.  Until I spotted one person I met 2 weeks ago at the Wake Up and Heart of London Sangha event for entrepreneurs.  I invited him to join the queue with me and he offered me his tea, which was very kind I thought because I did actually want some tea.

There were a lot of people at the event, people needed to be seated upstairs in the venue.  The sound upstairs was not working so people came downstairs.  An observation I made was, again this was a talk about altruism, helping others.  Most people seemed to be in their own worlds, a few people a guy that volunteers for Positive news and another lady were bringing chairs out for extra people to be seated.  I decided to help them and ask people to move inside to the sides to make more room.  Leadership is something you do before waiting to be asked to do it, I was not asked to help, but I could see there was a need to make people more comfortable.  Most of us are so absorbed in our own problems, inner world, we do not see around us.

This week I am going to be a little lazy and share the transcript with you from Matthieu’s Ted talk, he said some of the same stuff at the talk I went to.  I have highlighted some key points in bold if you want to scan the transcript.


So we humans have an extraordinary potential for goodness, but also an immense power to do harm. Any tool can be used to build or to destroy. That all depends on our motivation. Therefore, it is all the more important to foster an altruistic motivation rather than a selfish one.


So now we indeed are facing many challenges in our times. Those could be personal challenges. Our own mind can be our best friend or our worst enemy. There’s also societal challenges: poverty in the midst of plenty, inequalities, conflict, injustice. And then there are the new challenges, which we don’t expect. Ten thousand years ago, there were about five million human beings on Earth. Whatever they could do, the Earth’s resilience would soon heal human activities. After the Industrial and Technological Revolutions, that’s not the same anymore. We are now the major agent of impact on our Earth. We enter the Anthropocene, the era of human beings. So in a way, if we were to say we need to continue this endless growth, endless use of material resources, it’s like if this man was saying — and I heard a former head of state, I won’t mention who, saying — “Five years ago, we were at the edge of the precipice. Today we made a big step forward.” So this edge is the same that has been defined by scientists as the planetary boundaries. And within those boundaries, they can carry a number of factors. We can still prosper, humanity can still prosper for 150,000 years if we keep the same stability of climate as in the Holocene for the last 10,000 years. But this depends on choosing a voluntary simplicity, growing qualitatively, not quantitatively.


So in 1900, as you can see, we were well within the limits of safety. Now, in 1950 came the great acceleration. Now hold your breath, not too long, to imagine what comes next. Now we have vastly overrun some of the planetary boundaries. Just to take biodiversity, at the current rate, by 2050, 30 percent of all species on Earth will have disappeared. Even if we keep their DNA in some fridge, that’s not going to be reversible. So here I am sitting in front of a 7,000-meter-high, 21,000-foot glacier in Bhutan. At the Third Pole, 2,000 glaciers are melting fast, faster than the Arctic.


So what can we do in that situation? Well, however complex politically, economically, scientifically the question of the environment is, it simply boils down to a question of altruism versus selfishness. I’m a Marxist of the Groucho tendency. (Laughter) Groucho Marx said, “Why should I care about future generations? What have they ever done for me?” (Laughter) Unfortunately, I heard the billionaire Steve Forbes, on Fox News, saying exactly the same thing, but seriously. He was told about the rise of the ocean, and he said, “I find it absurd to change my behavior today for something that will happen in a hundred years.” So if you don’t care for future generations, just go for it.


So one of the main challenges of our times is to reconcile three time scales: the short term of the economy, the ups and downs of the stock market, the end-of-the-year accounts; the midterm of the quality of life — what is the quality every moment of our life, over 10 years and 20 years? — and the long term of the environment. When the environmentalists speak with economists, it’s like a schizophrenic dialogue, completely incoherent. They don’t speak the same language. Now, for the last 10 years, I went around the world meeting economists, scientists, neuroscientists, environmentalists, philosophers, thinkers in the Himalayas, all over the place. It seems to me, there’s only one concept that can reconcile those three time scales. It is simply having more consideration for others. If you have more consideration for others, you will have a caring economics, where finance is at the service of society and not society at the service of finance. You will not play at the casino with the resources that people have entrusted you with. If you have more consideration for others, you will make sure that you remedy inequality, that you bring some kind of well-being within society, in education, at the workplace. Otherwise, a nation that is the most powerful and the richest but everyone is miserable, what’s the point? And if you have more consideration for others, you are not going to ransack that planet that we have and at the current rate, we don’t have three planets to continue that way.


So the question is, okay, altruism is the answer, it’s not just a novel ideal, but can it be a real, pragmatic solution? And first of all, does it exist, true altruism, or are we so selfish? So some philosophers thought we were irredeemably selfish. But are we really all just like rascals? That’s good news, isn’t it? Many philosophers, like Hobbes, have said so. But not everyone looks like a rascal. Or is man a wolf for man? But this guy doesn’t seem too bad. He’s one of my friends in Tibet. He’s very kind. So now, we love cooperation. There’s no better joy than working together, is there? And then not only humans. Then, of course, there’s the struggle for life, the survival of the fittest, social Darwinism. But in evolution, cooperation — though competition exists, of course — cooperation has to be much more creative to go to increased levels of complexity. We are super-cooperators and we should even go further.


So now, on top of that, the quality of human relationships. The OECD did a survey among 10 factors, including income, everything. The first one that people said, that’s the main thing for my happiness, is quality of social relationships. Not only in humans. And look at those great-grandmothers. So now, this idea that if we go deep within, we are irredeemably selfish, this is armchair science. There is not a single sociological study, psychological study, that’s ever shown that. Rather, the opposite. My friend, Daniel Batson, spent a whole life putting people in the lab in very complex situations. And of course we are sometimes selfish, and some people more than others. But he found that systematically, no matter what, there’s a significant number of people who do behave altruistically, no matter what. If you see someone deeply wounded, great suffering, you might just help out of empathic distress — you can’t stand it, so it’s better to help than to keep on looking at that person. So we tested all that, and in the end, he said, clearly people can be altruistic. So that’s good news. And even further, we should look at the banality of goodness. Now look at here. When we come out, we aren’t going to say, “That’s so nice. There was no fistfight while this mob was thinking about altruism.” No, that’s expected, isn’t it? If there was a fistfight, we would speak of that for months. So the banality of goodness is something that doesn’t attract your attention, but it exists.


Now, look at this. So some psychologists said, when I tell them I run 140 humanitarian projects in the Himalayas that give me so much joy, they said, “Oh, I see, you work for the warm glow. That is not altruistic. You just feel good.” You think this guy, when he jumped in front of the train, he thought, “I’m going to feel so good when this is over?” (Laughter) But that’s not the end of it. They say, well, but when you interviewed him, he said, “I had no choice. I had to jump, of course.” He has no choice. Automatic behavior. It’s neither selfish nor altruistic. No choice? Well of course, this guy’s not going to think for half an hour, “Should I give my hand? Not give my hand?” He does it. There is a choice, but it’s obvious, it’s immediate. And then, also, there he had a choice. (Laughter)


There are people who had choice, like Pastor André Trocmé and his wife, and the whole village of Le Chambon-sur-Lignon in France. For the whole Second World War, they saved 3,500 Jews, gave them shelter, brought them to Switzerland, against all odds, at the risk of their lives and those of their family. So altruism does exist.


So what is altruism? It is the wish: May others be happy and find the cause of happiness. Now, empathy is the affective resonance or cognitive resonance that tells you, this person is joyful, this person suffers. But empathy alone is not sufficient. If you keep on being confronted with suffering, you might have empathic distress, burnout, so you need the greater sphere of loving-kindness. With Tania Singer at the Max Planck Institute of Leipzig, we showed that the brain networks for empathy and loving-kindness are different. Now, that’s all well done, so we got that from evolution, from maternal care, parental love, but we need to extend that. It can be extended even to other species.


Now, if we want a more altruistic society, we need two things: individual change and societal change. So is individual change possible? Two thousand years of contemplative study said yes, it is. Now, 15 years of collaboration with neuroscience and epigenetics said yes, our brains change when you train in altruism. So I spent 120 hours in an MRI machine. This is the first time I went after two and a half hours. And then the result has been published in many scientific papers. It shows without ambiguity that there is structural change and functional change in the brain when you train the altruistic love. Just to give you an idea: this is the meditator at rest on the left, meditator in compassion meditation, you see all the activity, and then the control group at rest, nothing happened, in meditation, nothing happened. They have not been trained.


So do you need 50,000 hours of meditation? No, you don’t. Four weeks, 20 minutes a day, of caring, mindfulness meditation already brings a structural change in the brain compared to a control group. That’s only 20 minutes a day for four weeks.


Even with preschoolers — Richard Davidson did that in Madison. An eight-week program: gratitude, loving- kindness, cooperation, mindful breathing. You would say, “Oh, they’re just preschoolers.” Look after eight weeks, the pro-social behavior, that’s the blue line. And then comes the ultimate scientific test, the stickers test. Before, you determine for each child who is their best friend in the class, their least favorite child, an unknown child, and the sick child, and they have to give stickers away. So before the intervention, they give most of it to their best friend. Four, five years old, 20 minutes three times a week. After the intervention, no more discrimination: the same amount of stickers to their best friend and the least favorite child. That’s something we should do in all the schools in the world.


Now where do we go from there?




When the Dalai Lama heard that, he told Richard Davidson, “You go to 10 schools, 100 schools, the U.N., the whole world.”


So now where do we go from there? Individual change is possible. Now do we have to wait for an altruistic gene to be in the human race? That will take 50,000 years, too much for the environment. Fortunately, there is the evolution of culture. Cultures, as specialists have shown, change faster than genes. That’s the good news. Look, attitude towards war has dramatically changed over the years. So now individual change and cultural change mutually fashion each other, and yes, we can achieve a more altruistic society.


So where do we go from there? Myself, I will go back to the East. Now we treat 100,000 patients a year in our projects. We have 25,000 kids in school, four percent overhead. Some people say, “Well, your stuff works in practice, but does it work in theory?” There’s always positive deviance. So I will also go back to my hermitage to find the inner resources to better serve others.


But on the more global level, what can we do? We need three things. Enhancing cooperation: Cooperative learning in the school instead of competitive learning, Unconditional cooperation within corporations — there can be some competition between corporations, but not within. We need sustainable harmony. I love this term. Not sustainable growth anymore. Sustainable harmony means now we will reduce inequality. In the future, we do more with less, and we continue to grow qualitatively, not quantitatively. We need caring economics. The Homo economicus cannot deal with poverty in the midst of plenty, cannot deal with the problem of the common goods of the atmosphere, of the oceans. We need a caring economics. If you say economics should be compassionate, they say, “That’s not our job.” But if you say they don’t care, that looks bad. We need local commitment, global responsibility. We need to extend altruism to the other 1.6 million species. Sentient beings are co-citizens in this world. and we need to dare altruism.


So, long live the altruistic revolution. Viva la revolución de altruismo.

If you do not have time 30 second sketch note of his talk –

Matthieu in his talk this week shared data of how crime has gone down over the years.  However, people are more afraid now to let their kids play in the street than 30 years ago.  The media mostly shows the dark side of humanity and what has gone wrong.  We are afraid to talk to strangers and help each other.  The statistics show a different story.  If you do not believe the statistics, then maybe we need a middle ground.  I like what Adam Grant said at a previous Action for Happiness talk, he said to imagine that people have your best interests at heart and they want to help you.  He calls it Pronoia “the delusional belief that other people are plotting your well-being.”  We are so used to paranoia, that people are against us.


With everything there can be a lot of talk, scientific evidence, intellectual debate, we can go round in circles with this.  Thinking we are better than others.  We are important etc etc.  For me the end of his talk was a little wow moment, how he with a group of volunteers shows compassion in action.  He showed us the work of the charity he has founded Karuna-Shechen  , this is what matters most to me, how we help ourselves and each other.  He is using his knowledge and wisdom to directly help people suffering.  For example, during this months book tour all money Karuna-Shechen receive this month is going directly to help people in Nepal.  I have donated a monthly amount.  If you want to donate please do 100% donations go to their projects.

I will leave you with something you can practice if you want to wish that other people be happy.  This comes from Meng who works at Google and runs the Search Inside Yourself programme.  He encourages you to spend 10 seconds an hour, silently wishing happiness for others around you.  Try this for a week, beginning with 10 seconds a day.  There are limitless places to practice this.  I like the suggestion I got from Nathanael Wolfe, to practice sending people compassion when you are in the park and walking around.

Happy weekend to you all 😉

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Death and your legacy if you want to have one…

Last Sunday I visited the Kensal Green Cemetery it is located in North West London and is one of the oldest (opened in 1833) and most distinguished public burial grounds.  I went to visit Mary Seacole’s grave and joined a cemetery tour that runs on a Sunday afternoon at 2pm.  The tour takes two and a half hours, you visit a small section of the 72 acres of grounds.  An unusual thing to do you are probably thinking, well the tour guide was a lady and on the tour was me and four other men.  Interesting gender observation of the higher ratio of men.  Not something you think to do on a weekend, take a tour around a cemetery.  I love London, as there are endless places to go, “…when a man is tired of London, he is tired of life.” (Samuel Johnson, 1777) photo 2-2

Walking around the cemetery it was like going back in time, there was hardly anyone there, so it was peaceful, you could hear the birds and during some moments feel the strong wind.  Walking past so many lives, stories, achievements, failures.  You see the graves that have been looked after and the graves that have been deserted.  During the tour some of the lives of the people in the graves came to life, with the stories that the guide told us.  There are 700 notable people buried there from the children of George III to the servants of Queen Victoria. Engineers and artists, politicians and preachers, scientists and sportsmen, writers and actors, doctors and lawyers, financiers and philanthropists and explorers.  I asked the tour guide if she knew where Mary Seacole’s grave was and she was not sure, so I did not find what I was looking for, I have contacted the Mary Seacole society to find out where her grave is.  I will be going back to see if I can find her grave next time.  photo 1-2

Death is something we do not really discuss in society, until we are confronted by death and have no choice.  This leaves us shocked, confused and unprepared for when it does happen.  When I was studying counselling I came across the grief cycle by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, 1969.  This is a model that goes through the stages of grief from her book ‘On Death & Dying’, published in 1969, in which she explained her now classically regarded ‘five stages of grief’.  This model is often referred to when working in change management with people in organisations.  Change is happening all the time, if we notice what is happening and are present we can see this.  If we are somewhere else, living in the past or the future, we are shocked when we are brought to reality with our relationships at home or work.


Another famous book called ‘The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying’ by Sogal Rinpoche (1992) encourages us to reflect on life and death and being prepared, and aware that death will come:

“when we finally know we are dying, and all other sentient beings are dying with us, we start to have a burning, almost heartbreaking sense of the fragility and preciousness of each moment and each being, and from this can grow a deep, clear, limitless compassion for all beings.” 


Questions to ask yourself-

– Are you swept away by an ‘active laziness’? It consists of cramming our lives with compulsive activity, so that there is no time at all to confront the real issues? (Sogyal Rinpoche)

– Do you use death as a guide to help you with your work? (“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.” Steve Job’s)

– Have you thought about your last moment and how you want it to be, will you accept it and smile or resist it and frown? (Sogyal Rinpoche)

– Do you have a legacy?  Do you want one?  What will it be?














How to find Mary Seacole’s Grave-

Here are some tips:  Mary is buried in St Mary’s Catholic Cemetery, 679-681 Harrow Road, Kensal Green, London NW10 5NY.  Nearest Tube Station is Kensal Green.  Tel: 020 8969 1145.  Office open 9-4.30pm – they have a fact sheet on Mary and are happy to direct to the grave.  Mary Seacole’s grave number is 6830.  To find her grave once at the main Cemetery,  turn right into the Catholic Cemetery, carry on until you reach the chapel (on the right), turn left at the  chapel and follow the path to the first crossroad, then turn right and walk a small way (look for graves numbered around 6829)  and Mary’s grave is over to the right – it stands out from many of the others as it has a renovated headstone.

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Happiness, Laughter Yoga and Wake up London, Heart of London Sangha

To begin thank you again to all the people, who give me encouragement and inspiration to write this blog.  Sometimes I think I am lucky, I get to choose how I spend my time and where I put my energy.  Last week I was asked to volunteer at the Museum of Happiness, second event on ‘Exploring Happiness: An Afternoon of Talks, Workshops and More!’.  I  have been to quite a few workshops in my time.  One of my values is learning, so I can overdo it and go to lots of events.  These days I try to go to less events and try to do more by writing, and sharing my work with others instead.  So I debated going to this event on a Saturday.  I was asked by my friend Shamash one of the co-founder’s and author of 7 books, including the latest one  The Mindful Way through Stress .

10714399_10152725248900983_8866355716824582720_o I decided to go and I was surprised that about 60 people turned up, motivated and really wanting to be there.  I got to work with all the volunteers who were interesting and compassionate people, I was thankful to be part of the team.  I listened to the two main talks from TEDx speakers.  The first one was Susanna Halonen ‘Screw Finding Your Passion: Unlock It & Find Happiness at Work’.

She calls herself a happyologist, in the introduction of her book she says:

“ stop chasing your passion.  Instead look inwards and you will see that passion is right there, within you…you’ll notice that people have been engrained with the message that they must find their one and only passion.”  

She goes on to share the five keys that unlock the passionate way of being:

  1. Be the Authentic You
  2. Understand Your Why
  3. Master the Art of Learning
  4. Connect with Your Tribe
  5. Play with Your Strengths

These are the key points for being authentic-

  1. Identify what your values are, what is important to you and why.  Awareness and fully embracing your values is the first step to unlocking your passion. If you want to do this you can take the VIA Survey of Character Strengths.
  2. Have the courage to carry your values in your everyday life.
  3. Acknowledge that being the authentic you at work is what helps you to be your best performing, most passionate you.

If you want to explore this area further this is another interesting resource by Neil Crofts to help you explore What is my purpose?

The second TEDx speaker was Marisa Peer ‘The Happiness Code: Three secrets to make your brain work for you’ with internationally acclaimed  therapist, multiple bestselling author.  From her experience she shares a fundamental rule that all our emotional and personal problems come from us believing that we’re not ‘enough’ and she explains how to overcome it.  She teaches people to say ‘I am enough’ and get’s people to write this on their mirrors and put on their fridge doors.  She shares the stories where this has worked.  To find out more you can watch her TEDx talk-

I got to also meet Esteban there a friend of a friend Ben Rodrigas, who I met at the Wisdom2.0 conference in 2014.  Here I am with some face painting by Livi Lollipop with the wise Esteban.


Later in the week I was going to be running a post-lunch energiser with Julie Whitehead on

Laughter Yoga.  Last year I trained for two days to teach laughter yoga so I suggested it to TMSDI to have this as part of their yearly networking day.  They said yes, so we delivered a surprise Laughter Yoga session to the delegates.  Julie began by asking whether people have enough laughter in their life?  The room was silent and the answer was no.  So they were ready to give it a go.  We shared a little bit about laughter:

LAUGHTER – ho ho ha ha ha
Laughter releases endorphins, giving us the ‘feel good factor’, acts as aerobic exercise providing internal jogging, unleashes inhibitions, encourages better communication.  Great team building tool for colleagues. Helps boost our immune system which fights disease.  Tones muscles, improves respiration and circulation.  Encourages positive thinking and creativity.  Relaxes the whole body by reducing stress and tension. laughter yoga at TMSDI

We practiced quite a few laughter yoga exercises to encourage childlike playfulness, helping us all to let go and connect with the present moment.  There were 40 of us laughing together, there is something about the group energy that makes the laughter experience together even more special than when we laugh alone or with one other person.  We had an extra nice group, ready to give it a go and participate, it was a pleasure to be able to do this, so thank you to the wonderful Julie for saying yes and giving it a go to run the session with me.

This is a poem Julie shared at the end of our session:


“Smiling is infectious, you catch it like the flu.When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too. I passed around the corner and someone saw my grin. When he smiled I realised I’d passed it on to him. I thought about that smile, then I realised it’s worth. A single smile just like mine, could travel round the earth. So, if you feel a smile begin don’t leave it undetected Let’s start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected!”

Also at the TMSDI network event was Dr Charles Margerison one of the founders of the Team Management Profile.  I have been accredited to use this team psychometric since 2006 and it is always great when you get to meet the creator.  I think his major role from the profile is a ‘creator-innovator’, the same as me.  His presentation was deep and thoughtful around the concept of existentialism and how we use our time.  He shared stories of people that had been successful, bringing to light ‘perception’, people that noticed something of more value than was already there.  For example, Heinz tomato ketchup was made from all the left over tomatoes that were going to be thrown away, Heinz found a different more valuable use for them.

Charles is an advocate of action learning.  He used to think you had to learn to act.  Professor Reginald Revans the originator of action learning said to him “why don’t you take some action and you will learn something.”  Most of the learning we acquire is from our experiences.  What new experiences can you have today, tomorrow, next week?  He ended his talk with saying:  “think about the right thing to do“, sometimes the right thing is not appreciated straight away or even during your lifetime.  He encouraged us all to be a little more daring and take some risks.  He is a unique character and really got into the laughter yoga exercises! maxresdefault

To close the day, I had been invited by Esteban to an evening talk in Covent Garden close by to where I was in Leicester Square.  I went to ‘ A Wake Up and Heart of London Sangha event for Mindful Entrepreneurs: Practising Together’.  This was facilitated by the two leads of the two groups Carol Wilkins and Joe Holtaway.  They both follow the teachings of Thich Nhat Han, a favourite teacher of mine. He encourages people to practice mindfulness meditation together through a sangha:

“In practicing together as a Sangha, as a community, our practice of mindfulness becomes more joyful, relaxed and steady. We are bells of mindfulness for each other, supporting and reminding each other along the path of practice. With the support of the community, we can practice to cultivate peace and joy within and around us, as a gift for all of those whom we love and care for. We can cultivate our solidity and freedom – solid in our deepest aspiration and free from our fears, misunderstandings and our suffering.”

I enjoyed the meditation together and it was interesting to hear about how people are running their business with mindfulness and some of the difficulties they are having and how as a group we could encourage and support each other.  This was the first meeting they had together, with a wish to continue.

Enjoy your weekend and leave any comments you have on my blog if you would like to.

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The Science of Awe and Happiness

Last year I had the pleasure of meeting Professor Dacher Keltner at the Facebook day on Compassion.  He is the founder of the wonderful resource that is the Greater Good Science Centre   affiliated with the University of California Berkeley.   Their mission is to share “the psychology, sociology, and neuroscience of well-being, and teach skills that foster a thriving, resilient, and compassionate society.”  They bring the science to everyone in laymans terms, out of the journals, readable and accessible for the Greater Good. 11021501_1032548076775339_7654141530162080764_o

I was introduced to Dacher’s work on Awe at last years conference in the US.  It was not something that I had heard academics talk about in the UK, so I was listening deeply to his talk and insights.  I was lucky enough to see him again sharing his good work with the Facebook and Wisdom community in 2015.  He began by giving us his definition of Awe:” being in the presence of something vast that transcends your understanding of the world.” (2009) Followed by a brief history from Protagoras’s origin story to Max Weber (1905) and political awe.  Awe was originally something we associated with divine beings.  In 1757 Edmund Burke, an Irish philosopher wrote about how we feel sublime (awe) in our everyday experiences of life and not just our relationship with God.  Currently at Berkley they are studying people’s narratives of awe, people share extraordinary experiences they have had, although frequently awe is described in response to everyday experiences we encounter. 11034369_1025591857470961_125969728909191542_o

They have found studies showing the awe-altruism link, spending time present in things that are larger than we are, encourages a more modest, less narcissistic self, which enables greater kindness towards others.  In the consumerist lives we live in, it is all ‘me,me,me’ and when we do not get what we want instantly we can all get impatient that our needs are not being met.  We are so important, that we always want to be heard and what we think and know, is more important than another person.  So our ego’s are constantly being bombarded and boosted with the messages we get from the media and society.  To balance this it could be good practice to realise how small we are in this big world around us, where we are all inter-connected.  Opening our eyes to this connection with nature and others in awe experiences alone or with others could be good for our health.  I am all for practising increasing our wellbeing when times are ok and good, to help us in the tougher more painful times we will experience.

In the Berkley lab they have been studying one branch of the immune system called cytokine system.  They are chemical messengers, produced by cells in damaged tissues. Cytokines evoke an inflammatory response, which is important for killing pathogens and healing wounds.  Research in Psychology is showing that a hyperactive cytokine response can result in chronic sickness and vulnerability to disease.  Jennifer Stellar did some work highlighting of all the positive emotions we experience, only awe predicted reduced levels of cytokines. 10845591_1025591800804300_1708689584248563800_o

If you want to explore more on the Science of Happiness you can take the MOOC (Massive, Open, Online, Course) Free course on the science of happiness from some of the experts in the field.  At times like these I love technology, bringing us closer to the knowledge and wisdom available, where money and our location is no longer an excuse.  Information is available so much of it, we are bombarded, this course could change your life for the better or you can also try out another course Science of Happiness – The 30 Days Happiness Program with Manuel Kraus.

If online courses are not your thing and you will be in London on the 9th May you can explore happiness live with real human-beings, in real time with co-founder Shamash Alidina and The Musuem of Happiness event.

If you want to find out more about Awe you can watch one of Dacher’s talks here-

To close, gratitude to the awesome 😉 Dacher for his work and practising what he preaches.  He talks about ‘seeking more daily awe’, what can you do to create more awe experiences in your day or your week?  Share them and comment on the blog below.

Happy bank holiday to those of you in the UK, a very good opportunity to practice getting out there in nature and consuming some awe experiences for the Greater Good!

Recording of Facebook presentation on the Science of Happiness and Awe: http://www.ustream.tv/recorded/59295100 or Slides from presentation: http://bit.ly/1x1s3my


Stellar, J. E., John-Henderson, N., Anderson, C. L., Gordon, A. M., McNeil, G. D., & Keltner, D. (2015, January 19). Positive Affect and Markers of Inflammation: Discrete Positive EmotionsPredict Lower Levels of Inflammatory Cytokines.
Emotion. Advance online publication. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/emo0000033

The nature of awe: Elicitors, appraisals, and effects on self-concept (2007)-http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/dacherkeltner/docs/shiota.2007.pdf 


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The kindness of strangers and the possibilities for new connections this opens

It is with deep gratitude I write this post to the people I met in California during my time there from February to March 2015.  Most of us only appreciate people when it is too late.  At funerals, I wish people would have said how great someone was to them and not afterwards.  In this vain I want to mention quite a few people for their kindness and generosity, especially in offering me a place to sleep during my trip.

I travelled with my friend Shamash Alidina for the second time to California, to attend the Wisdom 2.0 Conference.  During our visit he met up with his friends from Awesomeness Fest, Mark Duncan was one of them.

IMG_3027-MOTIONHe invited us to a Oneness Blessing somewhere close to San Jose I think, we went to a beautiful house, where Olga Llerena leads a weekly meditation group on a Monday evening.  While we were meditating there was a film crew filming us for a documentary they were making on meditation in California around the bay area. IMG_6362








While I was there I encouraged Olga and her daughter to go to the Wisdom 2.0 conference as they knew one of the organisers and lived so close by to it.  To my surprise during one of the Wisdom 2.0 pre parties Olga’s daughter Mali came up to me to say hi, I was like hi and surprised to see her.  She asked me:  “where are you staying tonight?” I said: “I don’t know, probably in the car.” I checked with my friend Shamash and we did not have a plan of where we were sleeping on that night.  I was amazed by the kindness of Mali Llerena someone I had met 3 days before offering us a place to stay.  We ended up sleeping on 2 of the sofa’s, a little bit like coach surfing I think which I have not done yet.  We also got to hang out a little during the conference, where she gave her time to volunteer at the conference.


Another friend Nathanael Wolfe who I met at the party during Wisdom Week at Happy hour at Zynga  who is co-founder of an app called Mindfulness Daily and randomly friends and co-founder with Walter, who I met the year before and who was a regular at my google mediation hangout.  He offered us a place to stay at his place in Oakland.  On the news in the US Oakland is portrayed negatively and shown as a place not to visit.  I was surprised by the beauty of Oakland when I visited and the diversity of the people that live in Oakland (which locals are proud about), plus the beautiful lake and architecture.  I am grateful for Nathanael taking the time to show us around his neighbourhood and we also visited the Oakland Art Murmur, a collection of galleries and mixed-use venues displaying art, music and spoken word on the first friday evening of the month.

We also got to meet Nathanael’s roommate Jared Peters co-founder of Origami Robotics.  This blew me a way, the creativity of two app guy’s sharing the same space. The robot had been designed to help therapists/educators with Autism therapy and language learning.  We watched this video below together:


Jared in his role as an educator working with Autistic kids realised there was a gap in the market for usable, friendly, affordable robots to help kids learn how to develop human relationships.  He showed us the robot and shared with us that is hand-made and he is currently raising funding while doing a million other things, so if you work with Autistic kids or know of anyone that does please share his work with them and help more kids have access to this robot technology that can change a child and their families lives for the better.

I hope this shows you how being open to new possibilities and saying yes can bring you a lot more knowledge, wisdom and love into your life.

If you want to increase your giving skills you can watch Professor Adam Grant’s talk on his book ‘Give and Take’ where he shares what successful givers do from his research:

One thing I took away when I attended his talk was the Recipriciocity Ring Exercise.  I have used this a few times when I have facilitated groups and seen the power that it can create, when we give and share.  Thank you also to Evelyn Sabino from Catylst Creativ who shared her template with me on how to do this in large groups, which she uses in the events she runs in downtown Las Vegas.  Yesterday during the London Wisdompreneur meetup that I lead we used this exercise towards the end of the meetup and it created new connections and possibilities, where we have committed to helping each other succeed. 11156245_10153104223001141_7337800368597149681_n So I encourage you to think about what you can give to others, be it your time listening to them with your heart, a skill or strength that you are good at, a book, the list is endless.

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Week of the 6th April- Suicide and the Compassion Research day at Facebook

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Before starting my second weekly blog, I want to thank you if you read my previous blog – I appreciate that.  Also, some of you have emailed me feedback on the blog which I value and thank you for taking the time to do that.  I mentioned the topic of this week’s blog to a few people and they used the word “depressing” to describe it.  However, even if suicide is viewed by some people as a depressing topic, I think it is important to raise awareness of suicide and death.  It does not have to be depressing for us to talk about this and share our experiences.

This week was the week that my friend Justin Broglie died of suicide last year.  I met him at the Wisdom 2.0 conference in San Francisco last year.  I only knew him for 5 weeks before he died, however he left an impact with me and connected deeply in the short time that I knew him.  Below is a picture of Justin teaching some local Philadelphia kids how to meditate.


We were both actually at the Compassion Research day at Facebook in 2014 during wisdom week, just before the Wisdom 2.0 conference.  This year it was sad for me when I went to the Compassion Research day at Facebook and he was no longer with us.  Equally I was sad and pleased with the topic of discussion during the day which was the work that Facebook have been doing on suicide prevention.

It’s estimated that around one million people will die by suicide worldwide each year 

(UK mental health foundation).

•Suicide remains the most common cause of death in men under the age of 35 (Five Years On, Department Of Health, 2005).

•More than 5700 people in the UK died by suicide in 2010 (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2012).

•British men are three times as likely as British women to die by suicide (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2004).

•The suicide rate among people over 65 has fallen by 24% in recent years, but is still high compared to the population overall. (Samaritans Information Resource Pack, 2004).

Suicide is something that we as a society are not comfortable with discussing and can bring pain to even bring it up.  Death is going to come to all of us.  Yet we spend most our lives trying to live longer and avoiding the subject.  I have thought that it would make it easier if we learnt about death and how to prepare for it at an early age, even at school, it would be more sensible than the stress encountered of when it happens and not being prepared with how to handle it.

Facebook can be seen in lots of ways; a social media giant, a place where you appear to have so many friends yet can feel depressed and alone.  I saw another side of Facebook that surprised me, as it is not something most people are aware of.  What happens at Facebook behind the scenes that I got to experience two years in a row is the work of the Compassion team at Facebook led by Arturo Bejar.  This is where they share their latest research related to helping make technology more compassionate.  In this blog I will be sharing their work on Suicide and in a future blog I will share the work they are doing with the Greater Good Science Centre.

11071145_10153081821327415_4285278657027288661_oIt is pretty shocking that 41,000 deaths in the US are from suicide, more people use guns to kill themselves than breast cancer or homicide.  Although from watching the media during my time in the US you would think differently and think that homicides were more prevalent.  Suicide is happening although, hidden and not really discussed in the media.  I was reassured by the work that Facebook are doing to care for people using Facebook and using it as a platform to connect with others and get help and support.  They have  three leads across the world covering  three time zones  that are on alert to help anyone that raises a concern and may need help.  Initially they encourage friends to help friends by putting together a suggested email that they can amend and add to or send as it is.  They have worked with researchers at the University of Washington, and two organisations that help to prevent suicide called Forefront and Now Matters Now to develop the content and resources available to help people in pain and suffering.  The responses link to a number of positive options, including videos from Now Matters Now, an online program started by Forefront research scientist Ursula Whiteside that uses real-life accounts of people who have struggled with suicidal thoughts to provide research-based coping strategies.


The two presenters, one from Now Matters Now called Ursula and from Forefront Dr Stuber, were truly courageous and inspirational.  They shared very deep and personal stories about suicide and have started the two organisations now partnering with Facebook.  When I sometimes ask people what they want to do, myself included, the answer is to help people, but help people do what?  These two ladies are helping to destigmatise suicide and show there is a way to help people suffering, by sharing their story, providing information and resources about suicide.

Ursula Whiteside is suicide prevention researcher, developer of this #NowMattersNow, and one of the first psychologists to publicly disclose that she has experienced suicide ideation. She thinks that lots of people have suicidal thoughts and yet it does not define them – or limit what they can achieve #ZeroSuicide

Dr. Stuber from the University of Washington, who lost her husband to suicide in 2011, has conducted research and informed advocacy work to improve Washington States readiness to address the public health problem of suicide. In 2013, she co-founded the UW-affiliated organization Forefront, which focuses on innovations in suicide prevention policy, education, outreach and research.

Information is out there, however, I do not think everyone knows about it unless they really need to know.  For example, while watching the recent BBC1 programme ‘Life After Suicide’ I became aware of a place in London to help people called ‘Maytree’ a Sanctuary for the Suicidal.  They provide people in the midst of a suicidal crisis with the opportunity for rest and reflection, and give them the opportunity to stay in a calm, safe and relaxed environment. They can support four “guests” at a time. The service runs 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. The volunteers and staff team spend up to 77 hours with each guest over their stay, giving them the opportunity to talk through their fears, thoughts and troubles. On leaving, each guest receives a goodbye letter. This is a personal record written by a member of Maytree’s staff team which reflects their stay, validates their struggles and honours their achievements.  Maybe we need more places like this in the UK and the rest of the world.

On Facebook I shared the remembrance of Justin and I think most people do not know the best way to respond.  The more we can talk about suicide I think the more people will respond to others experiencing suicidal thoughts and friends and family of people after suicide.  Although one of my friends Lincoln did share more with me following the post:

“I saw your post re your friend that committed suicide. And whilst listening to a Buddhist talk on non-self I thought of a poem I wrote that you might like and get comfort from. To me depression can be a door to dispassion and enlightenment and I think this was the thread of the poem.”

Once I laid asleep and woke,                                                                                                                                                                  To beauty all around,                                                                                                                                                                      Sun rays, softness, warmth and peace,                                                                                                                                             A couch, a room, a window I’d found.

13 years of age,                                                                                                                                                                                  A transforming stage,                                                                                                                                                                Looking out on the world around,                                                                                                                                                  And as I did, it bit by bit,                                                                                                                                                                Came crashing,tumbling down.

Sun rays darkened to thoughts I’d left, behind before I slept,                                                                                                 Softness hardened to thoughts I’d had,  of passed and so inside I wept,                                                                                  Warmth turned cold to thoughts I’d need, for future plans iI’d kept,                                                                                             And peace oh peace, such sweet release turned to hatred and contempt.

Let me sleep some more I thought,                                                                                                                                                  13 but lives so old,                                                                                                                                                                            Its hard to bare the load out there,                                                                                                                                                 When so much beauties sold.

To thoughts of goals and dos and don’t,                                                                                                                                            To thoughts of then and when,                                                                                                                                                            To thoughts of making sense,                                                                                                                                                             Of senseless everything.

But this tangled mess of thoughts to digest,                                                                                                                                  Will always be out there,                                                                                                                                                                     So I awoke,                                                                                                                                                                                      but kept a piece of peace,                                                                                                                                                                To a world less hard to bare.

Lincoln Mitchell 2012- lincolnmitchell@me.com

Facebook has 1.393 billion monthly active users (Craig Smith, 28/1/15) spending an average of 21 minutes a day.  Whatever we may think of this growth in social media –  be it good for us or bad for us, or both good and bad –and using it in this way to help people when they are suffering most and feeling alone to feel they are not alone, and letting them know that help is available is definitely great work by Facebook – so gratitude and compassion to the team at Facebook working on this for us all.


To close this week’s blog, a lesson I learnt from meeting Justin is the importance of how we engage with others when we meet them: are we present, are we listening to them?  We will never have the chance to have the same interaction again.  Remember a kind word, a gentle smile, listening with your heart can make your day and someone else’s a day to remember.

More information-

* Life After Suicide http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b05n2922

* Panorama – a Suicide in the Family- http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b05rcrx0/panorama-a-suicide-in-the-family

* Suicide respite centre in London- http://www.maytree.org.uk/index.php

* Now matters now- http://www.nowmattersnow.org

* Forefront- http://www.intheforefront.org

* Recordings of the presentations from the Facebook Compassion Research Day: http://bit.ly/1GPtwwG and slides from the presentations: http://bit.ly/1BF9rZD

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A day in the life of Harpal Dhatt founder of Glow at Work- 24th March 2015

A day in the life of Harpal Dhatt, founder of Glow at Work, is a new weekly blog on a particular day in the week or exploration of an area of interest.

Tuesday 24th March 2015-

This was the day when I had the inspiration to start a weekly blog, capturing one of my days each week.  It was a busy day with 3 meetings, volunteering and an evening Google Hangout.  On days like these I begin the day thinking about an intention for the day.  On this day I chose to practice being present with all the people I was meeting.

My first meeting was with Eamon Tuhami, founder of an app called ‘Motivii’ that quantifies motivation at work.  I was sharing with him some of my highlights from my San Francisco and Las Vegas trip.  He asked me what was the best thing from my trip and I said I did not know there were so many things.  He pushed me to choose one.  I recalled my day in downtown Las Vegas as my most recent wow day (to be shared in a separate blog).  I visited Catalyst Events, met the CEO of the downtown project, went on a tour of Zappos and Turntable health, followed by a Design & Dine workshop.  Eamon said what are you going to do with all this information, again I was not sure.  He looks at me and see so much potential and thinks I could be doing a lot more than I am.  He gave me a well deserved push into some action.  I recall him saying “you have done enough consuming, now you need to produce.”  This sentence remained with me as something to focus on. Going forward I wanted to think each week about 3 things I am going to focus on and use a timer to work 90 minutes a day on this.  I am grateful to Eamon taking the time to challenge me and be honest with me and give me some guidance.  I last met with him early January and since this time he has produced lots of things, a prototype app and short video on the app.  Just before I met him in the toilet in the cafe I got a lot of inspiration from the pictures on the wall and wanted to take a photo.  This gave me the idea for my first idea of starting to produce.  I wanted to take 1 photo a day for a year on what inspired me and what I am grateful for. Hence #365insgrat was born and started on instagram @HarpalDhatt.

On my way to my next meeting reflecting on what my purpose is and what I should be doing or am doing, I checked my email and saw this message –

“ How are you? You came through my mind so thought Id drop you a line. I just wanted to thank you again for really changing my life the skills you taught on the course were beyond invaluable.”

This brought joy to me and was very nice to receive from someone on the LEAP programme I deliver in the National Health Service (NHS).  I thought yes this is one of the highlights of the work I do.  I get to enable people to make real changes in their life and this is something that is satisfying to me and gives me job satisfaction.  I want to be able to help lots more people realise their potential by delivering the LEAP programme in a lot more NHS organisations.


My next visit was to the Canvas cafe, London’s first happy cafe.  I had arranged an impromptu meetup with Kay Gillard as part of my role as the London Liaison lead for Wisdompreneurs.  Wisdompreneurs is a global organisation of transformational leaders that are co-creating a new economy and creating vibrant lives through the power of combining wisdom with entrepreneurship.  We discussed the Facebook group for Wisdompreneurs which has 5,000 members and started about 2 years ago.  The group is a place that some people use for support in their work, to ask questions, give advice and share their offerings.  We both discussed the London meetup group and explored how to shape it going forward.  Together we created a new idea for the meetup around a monthly co-working meetup where we could be productive alone and together.   London Wisdompreneur Meetup

Rushing from this meeting to mindfully make my way to my weekly volunteering at the Terrence Higgins Charity Shop in Pimlico called ‘Boutique’.  I have been volunteering for nearly a year, once a week for half a day.   I started to do this because I had time to offer and I wanted to engage with a cross section of people and reduce my ego and develop humility.  This is one way I get to do this.  Over the time I have been there I feel like the shop offers a community to the local residents, where you see regular faces and build relationships.  In some ways I find that when you give to others, you actually end up receiving so much more.

10498595_384841935029601_976962041739695659_oAfter this I had arranged my second impromptu meeting for Wisdompreneuers with Elmar Kruithoff from Denmark who was in London on a training course on conflict.  He is founder of the Focusing Centre, where he helps people to deal with conflicts in their relationships and with themselves.  Again we discussed the Wisdompreneur Facebook group and our work, and we explored how to develop the products we offer and how to market them.  I encouraged Elmar to think about how he can maybe be a Wisdompreneur lead in Denmark and we discussed ways to use technology to stay connected and support each other.

By the time we had finished our dinner meeting it was too late for me to get home for my 8pm Wisdom 2.0 Global meditation Hangout.  So I decided it was best to find a place with good wi-fi instead so that I could participate.  I prefer to be at home and comfortable in my own space.  However, on this occasion I went to a Pret cafe in Victoria and struggled to get online to join the Hangout in time.  I made it ten minutes later and had to accept the situation and go with the flow.  Now I can say I have meditated in a Pret.  Oskar Fassler was guiding the meditation from Berlin for all of us.  I had the idea after the Wisdom 2.0 conference in Feb 2014 to start an online community where we could stay connected globally and practice together for an hour of meditation once a month.  The first Hangout was in June 2014 and there have been seven more since then.  At this Hangout we had 2 people in San Francisco, one in LA, Berlin and 2 people from England.


It is lovely to be able to engage globally in this way and develop our practice together, and have confidence to guide the meditations.  The next one is on the 21st April if you want to join us Google Hangout  Afterwards some of us ended up having an informal chat about our work and it was 10pm and I was ready to go home.  What a day!  A great day.

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